Advice on how to get your ex back – First steps

First things first- DON’T PANIC! Many times the chance of making up with your ex gets ruined by someone panicking and then doing everything wrong. If you want to know how to get your ex back, that’s the starting point. Take a deep breath and step back from the situation and try to relax.

This way you will be looking at things more objectively and not acting on your emotions. Making decisions on impulse is just about the worst thing you can do right now as more often than not you will make the wrong choice.

If you allow your feelings to take over at this point you will probably call your ex and go running to them trying to smother them with affection. This is not how to get your ex back.

What you need to do is agree with the break up and walk away from the situation. Yes, you read that last line correctly, you need to agree with the break up and walk away from the situation. Why? Because it diffuses the tension and gives you time to think.

It is a good idea to write a short note to your ex saying you agree and making a very brief apology. You don’t need to write a long confessional you just need to make it short and sweet and leave it at that for now.

The whole point of this exercise is to give yourself and your ex time to think. You will be taking the pressure off the situation and this will make you look good. You need time alone to repair the emotional damage you are feeling and to work on your plan of how to get your ex back. It needs to be planned to have the best chance of success. And to go through with this plan properly you need to be cool and level-headed and thinking objectively.

To remain cool and level-headed is what you need to do next.

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