How to get an ex back – Are you doing the right things?

If you have just broken up and want your ex back, but don’t know how to go about it you are not alone. Thousands of people go through this everyday and they all make the same mistakes. Here is how to get an ex back.

I bet you have called your ex a load of times and you have told them you love them. I am sure you have said “I need you” or “I don’t know what I would do without you!” Well, STOP! Ask someone how to get an ex back and they might say “Call her” or I think you should talk to him.” Don’t do it.

What is the right way to start the process of making up?

No contact for now

Well, you shouldn’t contact your ex for a start. Don’t panic, you can plan for this event in the future, but it needs to be planned otherwise you are in danger of saying something that won’t help.

All of the above are bad things to say, you should put some distance between you and your ex so you can take a step back and assess the situation. You need to think what went wrong and think about what you are going to do. This is the beginning of how to get an ex back.

You need to plan when to contact your ex and what you are going to say when you do call them. You need to think about what you are going to do if your ex calls you, because it is crucial that you get this right and don’t fall over yourself to be over nice to them at this point.

You need to think how you will react if you genuinely bump into your ex somewhere (not a fabricated “chance” meeting.) You need to think about when you are going to ask your ex on a date, where you will go on the date and what you will say on the date.

Be fair on your ex - It will help in the future

Not contacting your ex is also fair on them. It gives them time to think and they cannot argue with this decision. It puts you in control of the situation and gives you the opportunity to make the next move. It is more likely to spark intrigue and interest in you on the part of your ex and they will be keen to know what you have been up to.

So make sure you get up to something. Get fit and healthy, get out and socialize, eat well, read some books, meet some new people, anything to improve yourself and make you a more interesting and confident person. Because it is this person who will have the best chance of getting your ex back. The secret of how to get an ex back is getting yourself moving forward in life and not dwelling on the past.